Sexual abuse - helping your child

Sexual abuse - helping your child

Helping your child recover from sexual abuse

As a parent, you have an important role in helping your child recover from sexual abuse. There are ways to help your child and yourself through this difficult experience.

Your role in helping your child recover is crucial. They will need your ongoing support, belief and protection.

It will be helpful if you try to:

spend time with your child

accept that your child may be acting differently

respect your child’s wishes and be sensitive to their emotional needs.

Speaking with your child about sexual abuse

The most important message to get across to your child is that the abuse is not their fault.

Do:

Tell them you believe them.

Reassure and support them.

Tell them it’s not their fault this happened to them.

Tell them you will try to keep them safe.

Let them know you love them.

Let them know you are glad they told you.

Give them time to talk at their own pace.

Make time to spend with your child so you can talk privately.

Be open and clear.

Allow your child to talk about how they feel.

Try to be calm when talking with your child, as they may be confused by any anger, even if the anger is directed elsewhere.

Try to understand as much as you can about the effects of child sexual abuse so that you can best support yourself and your child.

Convey to your child that they can tell you anything, even when it’s hard for them to say or for you to hear.

Don’t:

Blame your child for what happened.

Suggest that it would have been better if they had not told anyone.

Tell your child that you blame yourself.

Tell your child to forget it ever happened.

Tell your child not to talk about it.

Get upset when your child talks about the abuse.

Look after yourself

This is a very difficult time and you need to take care of yourself so that you can cope and be there to help your child.

It may help if you:

talk to a counsellor, close friend or to other parents of children who have been sexually abused

look after your health

organise some time out for yourself.

Where to get help

Sexual Assault Crisis

Line

External Link

(VIC) Tel.

1800 806 292

(24 hours, 7 days)

1800 RESPECT

(Australia)

External Link

. Tel.

1800 737 732

Victorian Centres Against Sexual

Assault

External Link

Tel.

1800 806 292

(24 hours, 7 days)

If your family is involved with a Child Protection worker, speak to them about support services

Local community health centre